Palmetto Proving Grounds

clearly he saw his wife staring at your package with a blank look and thought better of leaving a seductive stud like you there to hammer and nail while he is away.....that's all i can attribute it to

My son has a Plumbing Business...Things like that happen to him as well. He rants and raves too but what can a person do? It is ultimately the homeowner's decision and not much else he can do about it. Also, he actually had a business decline his services because he did NOT have a Facebook page. Not because of what is on one but because he did NOT have one.

This is the only thing that makes sense.

Sorry you didn't get the gig....sounds you did all you could. Sometimes you can lead the horse to water, etc. I will say, however, some folks, and I have considered this in the past, are reticent to hire friends/acquaintances for fear of damaging the personal relationship if the job somehow goes bad. Maybe sometime later you can ask this guy nicely, hey, I really thought I made a good presentation to you for your job...is there anything I could have done differently to earn the bid? Then you can gauge his response to understand his decision and/or tailor your efforts.

For those of you saying I should have asked why, I'll answer with this.....
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My wife and I bought our first house when I was 25... a really nice house is a nice new neighborhood. Of course, as a first time home owner and especially because we were so young, we had spent everything we had to get in the house. We had to save up for a lawn mower. My new neighbor commented for a couple of weeks over my weeds/grass that was getting about knee high. I asked, if maybe he would mind if I borrowed his lawn mower. He said, "No, the price of wheat in Russia is at an all time high."
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I stood there dumbfounded trying to figure out why this was important. "What's that got to do with me borrowing your lawn mower."
He said, "Absolutely nothing, but if I don't want to loan you my lawn mower, it doesn't matter what excuse I use."
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My rant was more about urging YOU to spend your money with locally owned businesses, not so much about whether I got that particular kitchen.

Sounds like you're going to have to bang the guys wife IYAM.

I agree with you totally on patronizing all local businesses.

Not everyone will agree with the effort and time it takes to grow a business.

"You got a business, you didn't build that. Somebody else made that happen,"

Not trying to be anything but helpful, but you may need to get a little sales training. The problem was that you gave him all your ammo to shop with and he probably got a much cheaper price using your info. It sounds like you are a wonderful contractor and provide a great service, but you are selling yourself short by not understanding that you need to be on top of the sales aspect of your business.

Not sure what your point was, but okay. If you lay it out there like Mike did, it's no wonder you were in "simuliar" situations. I don't think I recommended that he become a high pressure salesman. The fact is pretty plain and simple, he gave the guy all he needed to shop the price and then got mad because the guy did it. But of course he may love being someone's unpaid consultant.

have the other guys started working on the project yet? If not then its not dead. Go after it, it will hurt your friendship either way if you keep pushing or if you dont. Tell him all the reasons why he asked you to come out there, what you had to offer and after hearing everything and seeing the quote what part was it that he felt uncomfortable with? They might not be insured, be using illegals, or using cheaper cabinets and just dressing them up with some molding.
Give him some different options that are similar to what he likes but could be some decent savings, and the service after the sale is the most important. He will know he can call you anytime if there are ever any issues, the other guy can move or go out of business. Just some thoughts.